Does Penis Size Really Matter to Women?

Let’s just rip the Band-Aid off: Yes… and no. Men’s obsession with penis size isn’t just about inches… it’s about insecurity, pressure, and porn-fueled comparisons.

Most guys have wondered:

“Am I big enough?”
“Does size matter to women?”
“Will she be satisfied with me?”

So let's break it down. The truth is, size can matter — but not the way most men think. It’s NOT about having a porn-star dick. It’s about how you use what you got and knowing that what she really wants is a connection, confidence, and a skilled sexual partner- not just inches.

The Real Deal - Strictly Dickly Facts

• The average erect penis is around 5.1 to 5.5 inches long.

• Vaginal nerve endings are mostly in the first 2–3 inches of the opening.

• The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings — none of which are inside the vagina.

So tell me again why inches are the main obsession? 🤷‍♀️

Well I have a few reasons why men and women think penis size really matters.

🔸 1. The Porn Effect

Most porn stars are cast for one reason: huge dicks that show up on camera. So the average guy (5.1 to 5.5 inches hard) ends up thinking he’s “small” because he doesn’t look like a dude with a literal third leg or tripod. 😂

🔥 Reality check: The average dick isn’t what you see in porn and the average woman doesn’t even want jackhammer sex from a 10-inch monster.

🔸 2. Masculinity = Size Myth

From jokes in movies to bragging in locker rooms, size has been tied to manhood for decades. Bigger = better. Bigger = more manly. Bigger = dominant. Which is pure BS. Men think if their dick isn’t big, they’re less attractive, less confident, or less sexually satisfying. But guess what? Her orgasm isn't measured in inches. It’s measured in how well you know her body, her mind, and her hot spots.

🔸 3. Fear of Judgment

Men worry about what a woman will think when they take their pants off. They imagine being laughed at, compared, or told they’re not “enough.” That fear leads to performance anxiety, shame, and silence — which makes it harder to perform, ultimately making sex bad for both people.

🔸 4. The Performance Pressure

Some men feel like they have to “deliver” with their dick — and if it’s not big, then everything else they do must be perfect. Eating pussy perfectly, eating ass, or sucking toes just to make up some imaginary deficit. It becomes a mind game that men play with themselves because the woman is usually not aware of these issues.

Men wonder 💭 :

• “Will she enjoy this?”

• “Am I deep enough?”

• “Is she faking it?”

That mental pressure kills intimacy and ruins any real connection.

🔸 5. No One Taught Men Better

Let’s be honest: most sex ed didn’t teach men how to give pleasure. It taught them how not to get an STD or get a girl pregnant.
So the thinking becomes:

Gf
Sex = penis.

Orgasm = penetration.

Bigger penis = better sex.

Nobody told them about:

• Clitoral stimulation

• G-spot play

• The power of foreplay

• Oral sex skills

• Dirty talk

• Confidence through connection

Somehow size became the only scoreboard.

Let’s break it down a little bit more — physically, mentally, and sexually.

🔍 The Physical Side

Penis size does affect how sex feels physically — just not always in the way guys assume.

🔸 A longer penis can reach deeper spots (like the back wall of the vagina), but can also hit places that feel uncomfortable if the angle or rhythm is off.

🔸 A thicker penis can create more of a stretch or “full” feeling, which some women love — and others find too much.

🔸 A smaller or slimmer penis can still feel amazing, especially with the right positions, rhythm, and clitoral stimulation.

But here's the deal: the clitoris is still the main pleasure center for most women.

Sooo… if you're not touching her clit or engaging her mentally? Size won’t matter because she still might not cum.

🧠 The Mental Side

Confidence and connection matter way more than inches. If you’re insecure or overcompensating, she’ll feel that.
If you’re in tune with her body and into giving her pleasure. That’s what makes the sex unforgettable.

Women aren’t turned on by inches alone — they’re turned on by energy, intention, and the way you make them feel.

A guy with an average or smaller dick who knows how to work it will always out-fuck a guy with a big dick who doesn’t care about her pleasure or lacks sex skills.

😈 The Sexual Side

Knowing female anatomy is key. Sexually you have to be prepared and have a game plan. Through sex education and practice your skillset will develop and improve over time. Learning all the parts of the vulva helps you figure out exactly how to make her cum. Be sexually aware by getting familiar with foreplay techniques, and finding where the G-spot is. It increases your sexual IQ and builds confidence.

What to Do If You’re Still Worried About Your Size

Take control and do these things to improve your overall sex game. It will definitely give you a confidence boost when you know what to do and how to do it.

• Learn her body. Every woman is different. Ask her what she likes. Listen and adjust.

• Use angles + positions that work for you. Spooning, missionary with legs up, and standing from behind can give deeper, more controlled thrusts — no matter your size.

• Upgrade your oral game. Eat her like a queen and she’ll never complain about your dick size again. Period.

• Talk dirty with confidence. Women love a man who takes control and talks them through pleasure. Don’t shrink your energy — own it.

What Women Actually Care About During Sex

✅ Confidence

Not cockiness. Sexual Confidence. A man who owns what he’s got and knows how to use it. Thats way sexier than a guy who overcompensates or goes silent in shame.

✅ Technique

Listen, you can have 10 inches — but if you’re thrusting like a jackhammer and ignoring her clit?
You’re not good at sex. Women mainly care about how you move, how you tease, how you listen to her body more so than how long or thick your dick is.

✅ Variety

Most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone. That means oral, fingers, toys, positions, and dirty talk —matter more than size for actual climaxing and having orgasms.
So if you're stressing about your inches but ignoring her clit? You’ve missed the whole damn point.

Remember to do these things during Sex

• Foreplay - that gets her dripping before you even slide in

• Oral sex - that hits the clit just right

• Fingering - that also rubs her G-spot

• Stay present, reads her cues, and focus on her pleasure

• Aftercare (because holding her after you smash matters too)

Once you put all of these elements together during sex everybody walks away satisfied.

My Recommendations - Best Positions for Small Dicks

Some positions make you feel larger to women while you’re inside their pussies.

• Spooning: gives deeper access, and is great for rhythm

• Missionary with legs up: tightens the lips and hole to create more friction

• Doggy with a pillow under her hips: angles matter wayyy more than inches

• Cowgirl with clit grinding: lets her ride your dick and stimulate her clit

Size doesn’t change your ability to make her cum — but your technique and choice of positions absolutely can.

Final Word: Stop Stressing About Size — Start Owning Your Pleasure Power

Let’s keep it real — you don’t need a massive dick to be amazing in bed.
What you need is confidence, presence, technique, and a desire to please her, not to perform just to bust a nut.

Because at the end of the day:

• She remembers how you made her feel — not how many inches you had.

• She craves connection, not comparison.

• And she will brag to her friends about the man who made her come so hard she forgot her own name 😝

So stop letting penis size mess with your mind. Your worth isn’t measured in inches. You are more than enough — and from Jessika, your freaky best friend, you got this 💪